forgiveness

Forgiveness 

Forgiving someone for causing you hurt / damage / loss is often argued by different people. There are people around us who keep telling us to let go and forget what happened. But do we really forget ? 

Nobody can feel the hurt / pain that someone caused you. Yes, they can be empathetic, they can be kind enough to listen to you and of course they can lend you a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen and absorb your grief. But feeling it exactly like you is impossible. 

Forgiveness is very subjective. It depends on how important a person is / was, what kind of hurt they caused and what damage you incurred as a human being, emotionally, physically or both in some cases. 

And here are some myths about forgiveness that often people tell us with the belief that forgiving someone always makes a person feel better. It does. It surely does, but in its own sweet time. Sometimes you forgive after you heal from a trauma and sometimes you can't even after getting fully healed from the hurt. And it's alright to still not be able to forgive a person and let go. 

So, don't let anyone else convince you that you're holding a grudge for too long, or taking too much time to forgive someone or let go of a bad memory. Every trauma is different, you and I are different. Always trust your heart and gut. Do what gives you peace. If forgiving gives you peace, forgive, if forgetting gives you peace, forget and if nothing gives you peace, don't forgive. 

You might forgive someone and accept them back in your life. It's totally your call and decision. You might never see their face again, again, it's your decision. But don't let anyone throw these myths on your face and tell you that you're being unfair for still being affected. 

I hope you enjoyed reading this. And if you did, drop a comment and forgive yourself for not being able to forgive someone. 

Lots of love, 

Medhavi